The anticipation of your arrival has given me pause. Here we begin another chapter in which we all make grandiose promises, hoping and wishing that this year we’ll really stick with to our goals. This seasonal paradigm is an invitation to disappointment and failure, and I just don’t think I can do it anymore. I don’t like making promises to a year. So, I want to let you know that I’m resigning from resolutions. Effective immediately.
I’ve decided instead that I want to continue.
I want to continue my personal trajectory of growth and expansion. To continue to choose to bravely face and do hard things: to create new art and have new experiences, even though I don’t know where all the resources will come from, or how it will all work out. To use my words with all the love I feel, especially if I have to say something hard. To push myself beyond my own limitations and try anyway. As Samuell Beckett said, “Ever tried. Ever fail. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better.”
I want to continue to say goodbye to believing in failure. And judgement. We’re all just doing our best. I hope we all make it.
Enough with dangling the promises of major life changes just because the calendar changed. Enough with the idea that growth and change can’t be a daily endeavor. I, we, can all do this life thing with grace and love if we choose that.
What would it take? What would that be like? And how does it get better than this?